We all know somebody (or a few somebodies) we’ve been gaslit by in the past:
~ the parent who negates our emotional experience of feeling less than by insisting they love all their children equally,
~~ the friend who minimizes our reaction by saying their mean comment was merely a joke and we shouldn’t be so sensitive,
~~~ the partner who makes us feel like a paranoid nutjob for simply asking how their day was so they can cover up their affair.

Merriam-Webster defines gaslighting as:
psychological manipulation of a person, usually over an extended period of time that
causes the victim to question the validity of their own thoughts, perception of reality, or memories,
and typically leads to confusion, loss of confidence and self-esteem, uncertainty of
one’s emotional or mental stability, and a dependency on the perpetrator.

But, starting today, we’re going to flip that script.
We’re going to put a positive spin on a negative practice by doing it to ourselves.

We’re still going to psychologically manipulate a person (us) to question our thoughts, memories, and perception of what we considered our ‘reality’, but instead of being the ‘victim’ in this scenario, we’re going to be the ‘subject’; and instead of negative effects, we’re going to facilitate positive outcomes.

We’re going to start reframing everything that happens in accordance with the beliefs and attitudes of the version of ourselves we’re becoming – the version who already holds our manifestation.

That big promotion you wanted was given to someone else?
It’s not because you’re destined to be poor.
It’s because it wasn’t suitable for you – You would’ve ended up working sixteen hours a day, doing two jobs for the price of one, and missing out on seeing your kids grow up.

That person you had a crush on doesn’t feel the same way?
It’s not because you’re unworthy of love.
It’s because that relationship wasn’t a fit for you – You would’ve ended up losing yourself to it and been unhappy with the person you became trying to make it work.

That opportunity you were hoping to snag slipped away?
It’s not because you’re too incompetent to hold it.
It’s because it wasn’t meant for you – You would’ve ended up settling for less than you wanted and missing out on an even greater opportunity that was not yet visible.

Our brains immediately throw up reasons to explain why something didn’t work out in our favor, and they’re almost always negative justifications to show why we weren’t worthy of that thing.
“That’s just my life – nothing ever works out.”
“I’m not good enough / smart enough to do that.”
“It’s karma because I did something bad ten years ago.”

But when we allow those thoughts the room to fester, they end up breeding even more negativity, and this in turn changes our vibrational output from the clear resonance of the person capable of holding our manifestation to the static noise of a disbeliever who simply wants something nice.

This is why we need to nip that negativity in the bud.
And don’t be afraid to get savage.
Karate chop that muddafecker in the throat to shut it up.

“Nothing ever goes my way.”
“Oh really? What about the time X, Y, and Z went exactly as planned?”

“I’m not smart enough.”
“Then how come you were able to do X, Y, and Z without any hassle?”

“Karma prevented me from having it.”
“So, why didn’t karma give a fudge when you got X, Y, and Z?”

Start pulling those receipts to show the negative thoughts exactly how off-base they are.
Start answering them back like the saucey badass you are, and show them who’s boss.

Yes, it will feel incredibly foolish at first.
Yes, it will feel a little like you’re losing it by having a whole argument with yourself inside your head.
But what you’re actually doing is snatching that negative thought process by the collar, jacking it up against the nearest wall, and telling it to quit the shit.

You’re actively rewiring your mindset, forcing it to stop allowing the negativity that was programmed by the old version of you to erode the new belief system you’re adopting as you step into this higher version of yourself, because that is what ultimately sabotages your manifestation.

And over time, in exactly the same way that someone who lives with a gaslighter begins to doubt their own mind, you’ll begin to question the validity of those negative thoughts.
You begin to reframe your reality from the negative belief that ‘Nothing ever works out‘, to recognizing that a setback is not a reflection of your worth, but merely a redirection of your focus.
You begin to dismantle the negative perspective in which the old version of you cloaked your reality by contradicting it with proof that supports the new belief system of the new you.

And to end today’s post, I’m going to share my choices for the
Top 10 Quotes about the power of Positive Thinking.

Until next time,

And because I live for a good facetious quote, I had to add the following: